Dating later in life is hard. Doing it after coming out is harder.
But it might be the thrill you’ve been waiting for after being repressed so long!
If you’ve been in a long-term hetero or cis-presenting relationship, getting out there might look scary. After 10, 20 years, maybe you’ve forgotten how to date. The new world of apps is confusing!
Even if you’ve been single, dating when you’re newly-out might feel like starting all over again.
And navigating dating and relationships with all of the other responsibilities of middle age – like kids, aging parents, careers – it might seem so overwhelming you want to give up.
Don’t give up! There’s a whole new life of fun and adventure out there for you!
Let Midlife Queer be your wingman! Wingwoman! Wingmate? We’re here to provide resources on dating in the app age, sex terms you might not have heard before, navigating monogamy or polyamory, and much more!
When we talk about queering relationships, we’re only talking a little about sexuality. We’re also talking about alternatives to traditional heteronormative living arrangements. The topic of “Living Apart Together” (LAT) keeps coming up a lot more in recent years. In an LAT arrangement, couples choose to live in separate residences while maintaining a romantic relationship. […]
Is Living Apart Together Queer? Read More »
Polyamory is having a moment in mainstream media, with the success of books like Miranda July’s All Fours and More: A Memoir of Open Marriage. But in queer circles, it’s been around, with a growing list of polyamory terms. Many queer people feel that some form of non-monogamy works for their life. And there are
Polyamory Terms: A Glossary for Newly-Out Queer Folx Read More »
There are a lot of misconceptions about polyamory – much less queer polyamory. We get that. America’s cultural default is compulsory heterosexuality and compulsory monogamy. But it’s especially important for queer people coming out late in life to hear about polyamory as a part of queer life. Even just knowing it’s an option gives you
Queer Polyamory: Dance ‘Til They’re Not a Stranger Read More »
Sex was invented in 1963 (that’s what Philip Larkin said, anyway). Of course, we know from centuries of images and stories that people have been finding unique ways to do it for as long as there have been people. Unique, and queer. We’ve always been here, y’all. But… that doesn’t mean you’ve always been here.
A Guide to LGBTQ Sex Terms Read More »
Well, here you are. Maybe it took you a little longer than other people, but that’s okay. Lots of men come out later in life and have to grapple with gay dating terms. What matters is now. You’re here, you’re queer, and you’re out. And you’re ready to get out there and live it up
Dating Terms for Newly-Out Gay Men Read More »
So you did it! You got up the nerve to download a dating app! You’re taking your first steps into the dating world as a queer woman! You’re seeing all kinds of lesbian dating terms! Now what the hell is everybody talking about? I had queer friends and had lived a long time as an
Dating Terms for Newly-Out Lesbians Read More »
by 
by